WHY DID YOU PUT MY DAUGHTER AT THE BACK???

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Some parents will not kill somebody o! As a mother of two awesome boys, I understand the need to be your children's number one Fan. I know what negativity can do to a growing child's self esteem so I don't joke with what I say to my children - I build them up, not pull them down - even before they fully understand their left from right. I must add though, that I will teach them life lessons like - YOU WILL NOT ALWAYS BE THE FRONT AND CENTRE STAR OF THE SHOW! Even if five pupils are HUGELY talented, will there be five lead actors in a school play? Or even when ten of you make first class will ten of you be made graduating class president? How then should a parent expect that their child MUST be the main dancer to take a solo part all the time? You hear things like, "We all paid the same amount for this club, so why is it my own child that is at the back?" Sometimes, I don't even know where to begin replying that parent. Defenses are flying through my head and I'm standing there trying so hard not to explode - "Ma, there are twenty pupils in this club and the formation I'm using for this dance puts five on each row. Do you expect me to choreograph a routine and have all twenty pupils in a single row? Is your school stage that wide? Do you want each student to do a solo part? Seriously? Twenty students taking turns doing solo??? Wouldn't y'all be the ones to yawn and comment on how the dance teacher does not even know what she is doing? 
My first son just started school at age two. We went to see the school and we fell in love with it. They had bedrooms for each class and no child shared a bed. That was fabulous! There were bunk beds (with side guards to prevent the children from rolling down) and I looked at a top bunk and immediately said, "Ha! Me I don't want my son to be on the top bunk o." That was my reflex action. Guess what? He resumed and was allotted that exact bed I pointed at 😂😂😂. The day I went to pick him and I noticed his bed sheet and towel on the bed, fear caught me. I really wanted to explode on the teacher but I restrained myself for a few reasons - 
1. When a child/children are sleeping, there are always caregivers with them in the room. 
2. Did I mention the beds have side guards?
3. The owner of the school knows what she's doing (Yes, believe it or not)
4. Some children would eventually have to sleep on top naa.
5. And most importantly, God is watching over our precious little children.

So mama-bear, middle row or back row isn't the end of the world, and no, it doesn't mean I don't like your child. It MAY mean that your child still has much to improve upon in other to come forward, but it doesn't mean I've given up on them. Sometimes, for the sake of aesthetics, I go with height. Other times, for the sake of technique and energy I put the fastest learners in front. And some other times I even just go with heart - that girl who has the brightest smile, or the little boy who barely remembers the steps but puts in so much passion - anyone could get the front row. Please do not take offense when you don't spot your little star in front. A star always shines bright - back row, middle row or front row. 😊



NB: Don't ask me for the name of my son's school. When the proprietress gives me 50% off I will do advert for them. 😬


Tamara Ajasa,

DanceMusicologyConcepts, 2018.

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