HEY MAMA, DON'T LET YOUR DREAMS DIE!

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I know. 
Sister, I know just how it feels to begin to wonder if your dreams will ever come true...

 Mehn, women go through so many changes in life. I look back at my days of single-hood; what my body looked like then, how freely available I was to take every teaching job that came my way... Fast forward to this present day and I am amazed at how different my reality is. No offense to men but what we go through ehn, e no get competition o. After I gave birth to my second son, I looked at my body in the mirror and I was confused.
I wondered if I would ever get my 'original' stomach back. But my point isn't even mainly about physical changes but the psychological ones. Raising a child takes a lot of inner and outer strength, raising two or more children challenges the heck out of your entire being! Time begins to feel so short. Your whole attention is on your little ones - their feeding, their safety while playing, their crying/whining, their everything. If for some reasons you are unable to get back into your career soon enough, you can slowly drift into that sinking feeling of whether you would ever reach the professional heights you ever imagined 😒😒😒.
There were days when I would stare at the wall remembering all the schools where I used to teach Dance. I would tearfully reminisce on how much money I was making before motherhood. See, I may be wrong but I think financially it is easier for women who have corporate jobs. They are given maternity leave, some good companies and even government pays you for a few months. But as a Dance teacher - a profession where your body is practically your work tool, you could be out of work for a while and ain't nobody paying you for not showing up! 
My second son turned 9 months yesterday and I have been so full of gratitude. I have been working hard at home the past 6 months to ensure my body gets back in shape so that I can gradually ease my way back into my business full-time. I can see results that make me smile because it is all paying off. 
I have so many dreams and visions to fulfill and I really cannot just lay back and allow motherhood overwhelm me. I cannot afford it. I believe there may be some women who God has called to be fullest time moms with no other professional jobs/careers or businesses and all. But I am not one of them. I have a calling and ministry to build. I have talents crying to be utilized. I have knowledge that needs to be shared. There are heights I am to take my Dance passion to. I have God-given dreams that I must activate... 
Babe, you cannot afford to let your dreams die! Motherhood is NOT the end of the world. It is a blessed experience that should even make you realize you are a lot stronger than you could ever imagine. It is not an event that comes to snatch destiny away from you, or kill your deepest passions. Woman, are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you thinking you will never be able to become that great accountant or medical practitioner, or world-class musician again? Denounce those thoughts RIGHT NOW! You have all it takes to become the best version of the 'you' God has created. Early motherhood is for a season. The little ones grow up faster than you imagine. While you are stuck at home pouring your all into them, find some time to improve yourself too! The internet is one of world's greatest inventions. Make use of it. So much can be achieved at home. Learn. Study. Grow. You've got this, sister. You really have! Please push. Do not give up. I am here for you. 💜💜💜

 On Good Friday, I did a Dance ministration in church. It was my first since marriage and it made me feel alive again... Watch here:




Tamara Ajasa,

DanceMusicologyConcepts, 2018.

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