IT IS ACTUALLY A GIRL'S WORLD...

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Have you ever wondered why there are no male "caregivers" at a creche/preschool? I have read a number of reasons why but I personally think THE WORLD has two main reasons: 
1. Ladies/Women are naturally maternal. It is generally believed that a woman (whether or not she has delivered her own children) would know how to properly care for babies, infants and toddlers better than men. God created WOMAN as 'WOMB'-man. So being born with a womb kind of qualifies everyone to believe we can do better at some types of jobs. 
2. The world cannot 'trust' men with little children. Accept it or not, sexual abuse is a major issue in Nigeria and the world at large. And studies reveal most perpetrators are men. 
So, can you really blame schools for not employing men for some roles?

 Very recently, someone sent me a WhatsApp chat asking to work for me as a Ballet instructor who could take private as well as group Ballet classes. There was no picture on the DP so I asked for a picture so I could see if I had met the person before. Picture comes in and it's a guy! *PAUSE* .... *LONG PAUSE* I eventually sent a response that I do not employ guys to teach Ballet for my company. 

 I teach various forms of dance in nursery/primary and secondary schools, but the majority of my Ballet pupils are from reception and nursery classes, that is between the ages of three and six and 99.9% of the times, they are GIRLS. Personally, I consider it highly inappropriate to have a guy teach a little girl Ballet. Ballet is quite hands-on. I am constantly bending to adjust my little ballerinas' legs and thighs as I show them the correct way to do a plie, stand in first position, etc. So there is no way I will employ a guy to do that kind of job. On the other hand though, when it comes to teaching hip-hop, contemporary and traditional dance to secondary school pupils, I always employ guys. At this stage, the pupils can pick up steps without necessarily having someone hold their body parts to show them what is next. And even when a particular move requires some kind of body contact, the pupils are old enough to fully recognize what is inappropriate and alert authorities if need be. 
This post is not to say ALL men are perverts and we must live in suspicion. Not at all. It is just to apply caution and wisdom. Are there amazing male Ballet teachers out there? Oh, most certainly. But will I employ one to teach Ballet to my tiny tots? Not a chance. Leave this one for us, biko. This time, it is actually a girl's world.




Tamara Ajasa,

DanceMusicologyConcepts, 2018.

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